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the story

May 9, 2013

First of all, thank you so much for sharing in mine and Keith’s joy over the pregnancy. I am beyond excited (still slightly nervous) but just trying to enjoy the moments! I have been quite open about our journey so I will gladly share our story with you as well.

After our second miscarriage last April, the doctor told me that I once again needed to have two normal periods before we could start trying again. I had my first one in June and my second cycle in July. Like clockwork…32 days apart. Those were the last 2 periods I ever had. In August I just stopped having them. Just *poof* stopped. I  took a pregnancy test (negative), panicked (obviously), and waited. By September I still hadn’t started so I called my doctor. I went in and did a slew of blood work and all my hormone levels were totally normal. My doctor chalked it up to stress of the new school year starting and told me wait it out another month. I did. By October still nothing so my doctor put me on a round of Clomid. This is a commonly used fertility drug to induce ovulation in women. If you do not get pregnant then you should have a period. Since I was just trying to have a period, my doctor told me NOT to have sex on certain days and once I ovulated and didn’t get pregnant I would have a cycle within 2 weeks of finishing the medication. Then hopefully my body would recognize what it was supposed to be doing and start having regular cycles again. I took the Clomid, didn’t have sex, and didn’t have a period. It did nothing for me. My doctor was stumped. He told me that I was out of his expertise and I really needed to see a specialist especially given my history of recurrent miscarriages. He referred us to the Texas Fertility Center (TFC).

We called TFC and could not get an appointment until the end of January. In the meantime, Keith went in to see his doctor for his annual check up. He mentioned my problems to his doctor and he asked us if we had ever thought of doing acupuncture. It apparently had a 80% success rate with fertility challenged women. Keith came home asked me if I would be open to trying it. I would have tried ANYTHING! So we found an acupuncturist who helps with fertility and made an appointment. I started going once a week. After two treatments (i.e. 2 weeks) I had a period. My first one in over 6 months. I was a believer. I kept on seeing her once a week for months and I started having regular-ish cycles (meaning they were coming 42 days apart). I also started drinking Chinese herbs formulated for fertility.

In the meantime, I saw Dr. Kaylen Silverberg (AMAZING DOCTOR) at TFC and before he could recommend any course of action he wanted to do full testing on me. We did chromosomal testing on both me and Keith, I was also tested for certain genetic markers, and I was also tested for every autoimmune disease under the sun. Everything came back 100% clear! Dr. Silverberg also did a cervix culture and found I had an infection in my cervix called Ureaplasma. He said it was a common infection (actually it’s an STD) that is harmless in women unless they want to have a baby. Ureaplasma left untreated can cause miscarriages and fertility problems. He said there is no way to know how long I’ve had it…it could have been years. Considering Keith and I have only been sleeping with each other  for 10 years now who knows how long this little infection was sitting there. Keith and I were both treated with antibiotics and when retested it was gone. The last step was to take a dye test. This is where a dye is inserted into the cervix and through an ultrasound the doctor watches where the dye goes. It checks for structural integrity of the uterus and makes sure the fallopian tubes are open. The stinker is you have to have a period, finish the period and have the test done before day 10 of your cycle. Well…seeing as I still wasn’t quite regular this test was holding things up. I was on day 40 and my doctor said if I didn’t have a period by the 42nd day he was going to put me on hormone inducing drugs to force a period.

The next day, I went to Chanelle (my acupuncturist) almost in tears begging her to do whatever she needed to do to make me start. We did an intense treatment that day and the next day…BOOM…I started. Thrilled I called and set up the appointment for the dye test. When I made the appointment the nurse cautioned me that I could NOT be pregnant when I took the test because the dye would be life threatening to the baby. I assured her I wasn’t, made the appointment for that following Monday morning, and didn’t think a thing about it again.

Monday morning I woke up and I felt off. I can’t explain it. I was out of breath, my boobs were really sore. I just felt awful. I did a crossfit workout that shouldn’t have been as hard as it was. I was just struggling. All the sudden I thought….am I pregnant? No way. No freaking way. I just finished a period on Friday there was no way. Was there? I couldn’t shake the nurse telling me that I couldn’t be pregnant when I took the dye test. To ease my fears I took a test fully expecting a negative result. I peed on the stick, and went about my morning routine. I had almost forgotten about it by the time I needed to leave to work. I ran back into the bathroom more worried now about being late for work and saw the words “PREGNANT” staring back at me.


I immediately called me mom.

I went to school, taught my kids, and when they went to Specials at 10:30 that morning I called TFC. I told them what happened. They canceled the dye test and had me come in that afternoon for a blood test to confirm the pregnancy. The next morning they called me back…definitely pregnant and could I come in that afternoon for an appointment? According to me HCG levels I was about 5 weeks pregnant. Tracking back it seems we conceived about 4 days after finishing the Ureaplasma medication. (Around Valentine’s Day…hehehe) I asked about the period I had just had quite literally 3 days prior and the doctor said maybe it was implantation bleeding, or a false period brought on by the acupuncture. We’ll never know. From that day on I had weekly sonograms with Dr. Silverberg and weekly blood work done to check my progesterone. I took (and still take) a progesterone vaginal suppository because my body isn’t the best at producing progesterone on its own. I also still see the acupuncturist once a week. Instead of doing fertility treatments she does pregnancy support and hormone regulation treatments. She also switched my herbs to be for pregnancy support versus for fertility.

After 12 weeks, Dr. Silverberg sent me back to my regular OB doctor. He sees me every 2-3 weeks right now (more frequently than normal) simply to ease and reduce my anxiety. I feel very blessed that I did not have to do invasive fertility treatments and really credit this pregnancy to 2 things: The treatment of the Ureaplasma and the acupuncture. I believe those two things were what got me pregnant.

So that’s our story. It is a story I will always love because it is the story that come November will make me a mama.

38 Comments leave one →
  1. May 9, 2013 8:03 am

    wow, amazing. i’m so happy for you guys and a huge congrats to you both!!!!

    • May 9, 2013 8:07 am

      one question (out of curiosity) was there a special test that the doctor did to discover this infection? why was it never detected before?

      • May 9, 2013 8:13 am

        Yes, I had to cervix culture (similar to a throat culture to check for strep but just in the cervix). I asked my specialist why my regular ob-gyn never checked for the Ureaplasma and he said that it is frustrating to him but that most OB’s don’t check for it. Which I found to be incredibly odd. I mean I can understand not checking every woman but if you have a history of miscarriage I do not understand why that is not a standard test. My specialist said it is a VERY common infection that a lot of women have. I asked my ob about it and he said that it isn’t their protocol to check for it. I didn’t press it with him further.

        • May 9, 2013 7:10 pm

          That’s interesting. I agree with you – if it’s so common, they should test for it, it would make a lot of people’s lives much easier.
          Thanks for the response 🙂

  2. May 9, 2013 8:03 am

    OMG KELLY!!!!!!! I missed the annoucement but CONGRATULATIONS! I am so incredibly happy for you and Keith! Can’t wait to follow! ❤

  3. May 9, 2013 8:28 am

    I’m so glad you were able to figure out the cause of your issues and get it resolved. Yay!

    • May 9, 2013 9:25 am

      Well, I’m not sure we will ever know for 100% certain what caused the prior 2 miscarriages but I have my theories! Sometimes I think we need answers just for closure and whether or not my theories are true…they help me sleep at night and that is all that matters. 😉

  4. May 9, 2013 8:31 am

    SOBBING. What an amazing story – I know it hasn’t been easy and it can be hard at times to know that you’ll be meeting your first sweet babies in heaven, but you can’t believe the joy that you’ll be feeling in November 🙂 And you guys are going to be such incredible parents!

  5. May 9, 2013 9:22 am

    So happy for you and will absolutely be sending positive thoughts your way! I also thank you for being so candid about your experience. I’m sure you are helping so many women and you don’t even realize it!

    • May 9, 2013 9:23 am

      Thanks Katy. I feel like a lot women struggling to have children fight such a painful and lonely battle. It can feel isolating. I hope have helped women who struggle. I know letting my pain have a voice definitely helped me cope.

  6. marci permalink
    May 9, 2013 9:27 am

    what an interesting story. i am so happy for you guys. sore boobs were my first symptom too. hope the rest of your pregnancy is boring an uneventful! happy to answer baby and pregnancy questions!

  7. May 9, 2013 9:41 am

    As I sit here listening to Drew scream in her bed (we are struggling with naps right now), I have to giggle a little. The journey TO motherhood and the journey OF motherhood sure are crazy rides! Can’t wait for you to have all the experiences come November!!!!!

  8. Bex permalink
    May 9, 2013 10:04 am

    I love that you are so open and hopefully along the way you may have just figured out someone else’s issue with infertility (you never know!) Teaching every day of your life, you are! So very happy for you!! 🙂 🙂 🙂

  9. May 9, 2013 10:29 am

    Wow first of all Congratulations!! And thank you so much for sharing your story. These struggles are more common than people think, and it’s really important to pass this advice along to fellow females for when their turn comes around!! It’s crazy how it happened when you least expected it awaiting other treatments. So happy for you!

  10. Britania permalink
    May 9, 2013 10:34 am

    Hi Kelly. I have followed your story and although they are not the same, I am right there with you with the IF stuggles! I am surprised we haven’t run into each other at TFC 🙂 We’ve moved on to IVF, but I also just started seeing an acupuncturist a few weeks ago. I am so happy to hear your news! Congrats and I hope you can let go of the worries that IF breeds and enjoy being pregnant with your little one! Hope we cross paths again soon!

    • May 9, 2013 10:43 am

      Oh Britania…I had no idea you were going through all this. Well I loved TFC…who do you see? I also really believe in the power of acupuncture!! I hope hope hope that you get your little one soon! Prayers for you and Sean! We do need together soon. We should talk to Macy and John and try to plan something. That would be fun!

      • Britania permalink
        May 9, 2013 1:37 pm

        I see Lisa Hansard. I think they are all pretty wonderful there! Thank you for the well wishes. It gives me hope seeing your little bump :). I have a frozen embryo transfer scheduled for May 21st, so just hoping that all goes well from there! I would love for all of us to get together and go to dinner or something. Let’s set something up soon! Congrats again!

  11. May 9, 2013 11:26 am

    Congrats again! This is so very exciting! And I think it’s awesome how open you are with your story–I am sure this will help a lot of ladies out! ❤

  12. May 9, 2013 1:22 pm

    i am so freakin excited for you! and i too am a believer in accupunture!

  13. May 9, 2013 4:17 pm

    Flipping the best news ever. Ever, ever, ever. (also, I just had a dye test and it was sort of awful. Be happy you didn’t have to go through with it…I mean, obviously.)

  14. May 9, 2013 7:22 pm

    It’s crazy that something potentially so small and not even noticeable could wreak so much havoc. Glad you figured it out (obviously!!), and even though I know this journey has been hell for you, when you hold that baby in your arms this fall, it will all be worth it. Congrats again, friend. You and Keith are going to be phenomenal parents.

  15. May 9, 2013 9:17 pm

    That is craziness! Dang! That’s a lot to go through, but at least you two are on the right road now! I had to take progesterone with Max. I had none when they tested me after my 2nd miscarriage. Made me horribly sick, but it was so worth it! I’m so happy for you two!

  16. May 10, 2013 6:49 am

    Wow, congratulations, I’m so happy for you! It’s crazy unbelievable that OBs don’t test for something that simple.

  17. May 10, 2013 7:12 am

    I am SO happy for you Kell!

    I tried commenting as SOON as I read your blog entry the other day, and then this blog entry! I couldn’t, because I read it at work and it was blocked and I was like AHHH I cannot congratulate you and Keith!

    You must be over the moon ecstatic. I am smiling from eat to ear, re-reading this. xoxoxox Have one amazing weekend.

  18. May 10, 2013 3:52 pm

    sooo incredibly happy for you!!

  19. Megan W permalink
    May 11, 2013 10:30 pm

    Wow! My husband and I are thinking about getting pregnant but I am on an antidepressant. Acupuncture was suggested to me to help my anxiety and depression so I could stop using medication. Did you have traditional acupuncture needs? I’m petrified of needles but have heard of an electric pulse type. So glad it worked for you!!!!

    • May 12, 2013 9:36 am

      Yes! I am a big believer in acupuncture! I hurt my back about two years ago lifting weights. It was so bad I couldn’t ever raise my arms up over my head. I tried resting, laying off from working out but after a month there was no relief. I saw an acupuncturist and within about 2 weeks my pain was completely gone. It was amazing.

  20. Mary permalink
    May 12, 2013 11:11 am

    Thank you so much for sharing this story! This is about the third time I have read it, and it gives me such peace of mind. I had a miscarriage in January, and now I am about 6 weeks pregnant again, and completely terrified. Reading this just gives me such hope! How did you deal with the anxiety of the first 12 weeks?

    • May 12, 2013 12:33 pm

      Oh my goodness! Congratulations!! I will say some prayers for you and your baby!

      I had horrible anxiety during the first 12 weeks and I honestly still battle it. But I just have to take deep breaths and realize that no matter how much worrying I do it will not change the outcome of what is going to happen. So I might as well try to enjoy the process. Now I realize that this is easier said than done but I try very very hard to try to stay positive.

  21. May 13, 2013 4:48 pm

    Awww I just loved this so much – seriously made me want to cry! I am just so, so, overwhelmingly overjoyed for you and Keith!

  22. May 14, 2013 8:17 pm

    It’s so amazing that it seems like the fix was “simple” once finally you figured it out. Thank goodness you didn’t have to go through the expense and stress of invasive fertility treatments. YAY!! Just so happy for you.

  23. May 15, 2013 2:45 pm

    I still can’t believe it! I’m just so happy! and i truly believe in acupuncture too!! WOW! Hugs hugs hugs

  24. Nikki permalink
    March 28, 2014 9:19 pm

    I know this post was 10 months ago, but out of curiosity, do you know how long your luteal phase was? Most normals ones I read are 14 days regardless of how long your period is. Was that true for you?

    • March 29, 2014 8:46 am

      I have no idea. I wasn’t even having periods on my own. The only way I was getting periods was by seeing a fertility acupuncturist. I took ovulating inducing drugs and that did nothing
      for me. I saw my fertility acupuncturists once a week for 6 months and I was having periods roughly every 40 days. Now at 5 months post partum I had one period at about 2.5 months post partum and then never had another one. So obviously my system is still a little crazy.

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