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blogging, it’s kinda like high school

September 26, 2011

Well hello there What Kelly Said readers!  I’m another Kelly, and I blog over at MyVerbal Vomit.  While the other Kelly is off gallivanting in Europe on vacation, she was kind enough to ask me to write a guest post for her.  Since, I’m a big fan of hers, I happily agreed, and now ya’ll are stuck with me today!  I hope you like me :).

I am just shy of my two year blogging anniversary, and I actually started before I even knew what a healthy living blog was.  Once I found those, I started trying to fit in as a HLB.  However, I don’t like peanut butter or oatmeal or green drinks, and I curse, a lot, so I was swiftly kicked out of that club. Now I write more of a lifestyle blog, and talk about things like, Losing my shit in the Harris Teeter produce department, the 10 year
detailed history of my relationship
, the trials and tribulations of long distance relationships, and oh yeah the occasional recipe and workout. I’ve run a few races, the occasional 10 miler and 5k, and one half marathon, but lately my workouts are more about fitting into my jeans this winter.

So, in the almost two years I’ve been blogging, I’ve come to one major realization. Blogging, is just like high school.  Now, as someone who hated high school with a fiery passion, you would think I’d also hate blogging.  Not so the case, but I’ll explain that in a minute.  You see, I wasn’t popular when I was younger, not even a little.  In fact, I chose my high school solely based on the fact that the “mean” girls from grade school were all going to a different high school.  I started high school trying to make friends with the “popular” girls, but as with blogging, quickly realized I didn’t really fit in with them.  I didn’t drink,  I didn’t go to parties, I didn’t live in the city (Philadelphia), and I had a boyfriend I spent most of my weekends with.  Every year when it came time for student council nominations (the all girl’s school version of a popularity contest), I always submitted my name, but never even received enough votes to make the ballot.

As my high school years went on, I started to stop caring whether the “popular” girls liked me and eventually found a core group of girlfriends I did fit in with. The same can be said about my blogging history, and once I stopped trying to be like the “big bloggers” I found a group of readers just like me, who I really fit in with.  They curse, they snark, they booze their faces off (sometimes), and struggle through runs hungover and dehydrated. While they occasionally eat oatmeal, they’ll also house a cheeseburger.

However just like high school, bloggers still fall into the category of “mean girls” or “popular girls” and there’s a fine line between wanting the mean girls to like you (so you don’t get made fun of) and not wanting the popular girls to actually think you’re mean.  And you thought you left all this drama behind you!  Can I tell you a little secret though?  Remember in highschool, wondering if said group of popular girls even really liked each other,and then realizing they didn’t?  Well guess where that still remains true. Trust me, I’ve heard the gossip and talking behind each other’s backs firsthand.

Starting a blog, gaining readership, and joining this huge group of people can be intimidating. The important thing to remember is that eventually, just like in high school, you’ll find bloggers who like you for what you write and relate to you and who you can be real with.  Through blogging, I’ve had the opportunity to meet and hang with awesome ladies like Amy, Steph, and Kacy, who live all over the place, and consider each and every one of them “real” friends now. Kacy and I even hit it off so well she move 1.5 miles away from me!

When I first started blogging, I just thought it would be a place where I could share my thoughts and talk about things my “real life” friends had no interest in.  Luckily it has turned into so much more than that. It’s a place where I’ve made real friendships with girls I talk to every day, meet up with when they’re in town, and even make plans to go visit.  You just have to get through the awkward, not knowing anyone phase first :).

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10 Comments leave one →
  1. September 26, 2011 7:48 am

    Great guest post Kellies. 🙂
    And I actually went through a similar experience with my blog when I started. But I couldn’t agree more about the community of friends you find through it. It’s like having long-lost sisters all over the place.

  2. September 26, 2011 8:22 am

    I agree with this and what Jess said. I love the little niche of people we’ve all seemed to find. Considering I’ve posted more about beer than anything else lately, I don’t know if I’m a true HLBer as others are. I try.

  3. September 26, 2011 8:52 am

    I love the group of people that read my blog. You really do get the best readers just by being yourself. I love that I can talk about sweating wine when I run, and that people can actually relate. Its awesome.

  4. September 26, 2011 2:19 pm

    Love this post! I agree that by being yourself, you’ll attract more readers that are like you. Like attracts like they say. Keep being your, real, true self. At least your blog has personality 😉

  5. September 26, 2011 5:51 pm

    Very true. And I think we’ve all been through that – trying to be HLB. Thank God though I stopped caring and started writing what I want. And I’m even more grateful to have found a group who seems to care about what I write. Sure, that groups kinda small…. but I prefer to think of it as exclusive : ) haha.

  6. October 4, 2011 10:23 pm

    I loved this article! I am just getting started in blogging and haven’t found my “clique” yet so it’s lonely so far, but I can’t wait until I do! Thank you Kelly and Kelly!

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