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May 6, 2011

Day 19 of the 30 day challenge is about disrespecting your parents. I feel like my brother and I were pretty good kids. We didn’t really give my parents a whole lot of problems. I mean don’t get me wrong, we weren’t angels by ANY stretch of the imagination but we never got into any major trouble or did anything truly horrendous. I like to think we were both typical teenagers. Although my brother admits now (he is 27) that he was tad more wild than any of us thought at the time! ha! But all-in-all we were pretty dang good kids.

But with that said, do you ever have those moments that you wish you could take back? I can think of a couple. This one time my Dad had come home and had a very large box in his trunk. He asked me to help him get it out. He lifted the box out of the trunk and handed it to me. It was so heavy and I could feel myself buckling under the pressure. I called out to my Dad but he didn’t hear me. I called out again but he was distracted. I yelled really loudly…”Dad I hate you!” He immediately grabbed the box and the hurt in his eyes was so raw. I immediately said I was sorry and didn’t mean it. I honestly didn’t even known where it had come from. All I know is that the box was so heavy and I he wasn’t listening to me and I said the first thing I knew would get his attention. It still makes me emotional to think about his face looked that day. It was literally like someone had died. I know I didn’t mean it and honestly my Dad probably doesn’t even remember that incident but I do. I want that moment back.

This is my all time favorite picture of me and my Dad.

I definitely grew up a “Daddy’s girl” and I gave my mom a lot of typical teenage sass. I had a mouth on me…no doubt. I was the princess of back talking.  Goodness. But my mom was always there for me. I got myself into some messes that she always helped clean up. When my parents got divorced (I was in college) and I shut my mom out completely. I, at the time, blamed her completely and I spent a long time punishing her. I remember that first Christmas and my mom had me and my brother over. She showered us with amazing gifts and I was such a shit. I was apathetic and uncaring. I acted like such a brat. In truth I was just confused and hurt and I didn’t know how to handle it. I really really really gave her a hard time for a very long time. I regret that Christmas and my behavior. I was awful. But, as cliché as it sounds, I matured as I got older. I understood, I forgave and I apologized. My mom is my best friend and I am thankful that through it all she patiently loved me and waited. Waited for me to be the Kelly she needed me to be.

15 Comments leave one →
  1. May 6, 2011 7:17 am

    Beautiful pictures, it is freaky how much you look like your mom!

    I wish I could go back and would have been nicer to my parents–I was such a smart alec and a brat! At least I got nicer with age 🙂

  2. Christine permalink
    May 6, 2011 7:43 am

    Well, that wasn’t very nice…you needed to give those of us who are Moms a heads up to get a box of TISSUES! Honestly, Kelly that was beautiful, your words moved me to tears! As a mother there is no gift better than hearing how much your child loves you and values your relationship with them…again thank you for sharing yourself with us.

    • May 6, 2011 8:00 am

      Thanks Christine! My parents are so special to me. I talk to them both every single day. I feel so lucky to have such a amazing support system! I hope one day I am a parent that is half as good as they are. 😉 Happy early Mother’s Day to you!

  3. lowandbhold permalink
    May 6, 2011 8:01 am

    Oh gosh, I’ve so had those moments also. One was with my mom when I was really little. I’ve brought it up to her a bunch of time to apologize but she doesn’t remember it. It still bothers me though. You never want to hurt your parents.
    Also, when my parents divorced (the summer before college) I shut both of my parents out. I definitely regret that also, but in a different way. I think by standing up to them I made them realize what they were doing to me (it was vrey messy), but I wish I wouldn’t have cut my Dad out for as long as I did. I’ll never get those years back.

  4. May 6, 2011 8:26 am

    I feel like I was a pretty good kid too, but there are definitely things that I wish I could change — mean things I said, rolling eyes, not listening, etc.

  5. May 6, 2011 9:00 am

    Such pretty pictures. I was a good kid, my moms and mine relationship has struggled in recent years though.

  6. May 6, 2011 9:42 am

    So sweet. I love your parents. I have a ton of great memories with them both. 🙂

  7. May 6, 2011 10:01 am

    Kids can be mean, but I think parents get it. They were mean as kids too. I’m sure your mom was hurt, but totally understands now right? We’re always harder on ourselves than others are on us.

    You’ve got some great genes!

    • May 6, 2011 10:56 am

      Ha! I think both my parents are better looking than I will ever be…but thanks! 😉

  8. May 6, 2011 11:57 am

    SO, my stepdad gave me the nickname “Mouth” when I was growing up. It was for good reason. Looking back, I was such a brat sometimes. I would yell and act dramatic when I didn’t get my way. (“Fine! I guess I’ll just stay home this weekend and never go out again! You never let me do ANYTHING”) Yeah, it’s not pleasant to think about. While I still have my ‘mouth’, it only comes out in my frustrations with myself and I do not yell at my parents anymore. I can’t believe I ever did. They are the best parents anyone could ask for and I cannot believe that I ever disrespected them like that. It makes me sad. However, my mom doesn’t hold a grudge (thankfully) and just blamed it on me being a teenager (my entire life). Haha! 🙂

  9. May 6, 2011 1:18 pm

    So. Sweet.

    Your so beautiful and have such a warm glow about you! Can’t wait to meet!

  10. May 6, 2011 1:45 pm

    I teared up reading this.
    I had a moment with my mom way back in the day that I wish I could take back too. It was during my ED, and she bought me pizza for dinner. I flipped out and told her I HATE pizza, and refused to eat it. I can still hear her saying, “I thought I was doing something nice”. Breaks my heart. She probably doesnt remember it, but I sure do, and I still feel awful about it.

  11. May 6, 2011 1:47 pm

    Such beautiful pictures!

  12. May 6, 2011 4:44 pm

    aw those pictures are gorgeous! All of you are just glowing!

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